finding good girl friends

Growing up, I never had that huge friend group full of girls who I adored being around. I always had a few close individual friendships but that was it. While I love and value those friendships, I always hoped to find a big group of girls to spend all my time with.

When I came to college I struggled with finding a positive group of girls to surround myself with at first, but today I can say I have the best friends in the whole world- and it changed my life.

Having girl friends who will roll around laughing with me for absolutely no reason, support me through difficult decisions, buy me thoughtful gifts when I'm sad, or just spend endless amounts of time with me has allowed me to gain such a gratitude for good friendships.

And today, on International Women's Day, I have been able to have lots of gratitude for finding good girl friends, so I am going to share some of the incredible traits my friends embody that I think everyone should surround themselves with too.

1. Humor: I have one friend that makes me laugh until I am crying every time we are together. She makes jokes out of everything and brings so much joy into my life. Finding a friend who you can be your silliest self around is so rewarding.

2. Kindness: Having that friend who always is by your side hyping you up and making you feel special is the best. I have a friend who always puts other peoples feelings first and never fails to make you feel loved through her kind actions. I hope everyone can have that person in their lives.

3. Support: College is a time of making big decisions about from everything to academics, internships, even boys (haha). Having a friend who is always pushing you to succeed and make smart decisions will change your life.

4. Honesty: As much everyone appreciates it when their friends tell them that they look super cute in a terrible outfit, having that one friend who will tell it to you straight is so necessary. Whether it be something stupid like an outfit, or something important like advice on a relationship, surrounding yourself with someone who is transparent and honest is helpful.

5. Dedicated: They say to surround yourself with people you aspire to learn from, and dedication is something I admire so much in one of my friends. When I'm feeling unmotivated or lazy, being surrounded by someone who will encourage you to get your sh*t together is something I promise you need.

6. Comforting: There are SO many ups and downs throughout college, that having a comforting support system through a friendship will help your mental health immensely. Having that one girl friend who will comfort you through the hard times and cheer you on in the good ones is a sign of true friendship.

7. Loyalty: So many people will enter and exit your life and that can be hard. One thing I've learned to live by is "You can't control other people". Nobody is garunteed to stay in your life, or be genuine, or love you unconditionally. But, when you meet the person that is loyal, consistent, and will no doubt be the person to stick around no matter what, hold them tight and make sure they know you love them.

Each of my seven best friends in college possess one of these traits that make them the best girl friends in the world. And if you take anything away from this post, I hope it's that you will surround yourself with people who embody these qualities too. Happy International Women's day!

Lots of love,

Lolo